Originally Posted by Linzyhop i found out last month my ex that I lived with for 2 1/2 years when I first moved to Boston got married after dating the girl 3 months. oh and i just found out she's pregnant. and one of the reasons we broke up is ...
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05-08-2007, 03:32 PM
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| Never, never, never give up  Conservative Party High Point, NC 
| Originally Posted by Linzyhop Maybe he just was being polite and really felt you weren't going to be a good mother 
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05-08-2007, 03:51 PM
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| Liberty, now and forever  Libertarian Party DFW
| Originally Posted by Stylerod
 
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05-08-2007, 03:55 PM
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| I find it "odd" that you're still thinking about it considering you're married with children. How would your husband feel about it? I know mine wouldn't be comfortable, and I would feel uncomfortable with him contacting an old ex (but that's just us). Why not just move on in life? | ||||
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05-08-2007, 04:35 PM
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| no es mi culpa  Independent Beantown
| Originally Posted by Stylerod
he wasn't a polite guy period. to be objective, that could have been, but considering he said over and over he knew i'd make a great mom, but he'd be a shitty father cause he had all these anxiety issues... doubtful.
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05-08-2007, 05:04 PM
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| Never, never, never give up Conservative Party High Point, NC
| Originally Posted by Linzyhop Good riddance then.
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05-09-2007, 01:59 AM
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| One American Family at a Time.  Idealist The OC, California
| Originally Posted by 03 white zx3
There wasn't any thought in it. Nothing to think of. Just saw an ex was married, and I felt a sense of relief, not knowing these years if I ruined him (which he really made it seem like at the time), or waiting for a commonality between us. Obviously I moved on, but, I kept hoping for him to move. Even though I didn't want to be with him, I hoped he would find someone to make him happy. I just might be the reason he took almost 9 years to marry her. Both of us, starting from that break up point, it took me 4 years to get married, and it took him twice is long, and to me that is curious. But, seeing that he did marry her, it makes me happy for them. I told my Husband today that I saw that. He said "Oh." because he doesn't care. All I have to say about it really is "It's about time". Moving on already happened on my end. It's good to see it happened on his end to. I had no idea if he was still with her, or in a relationship or anything until I saw his wedding pictures on his page.
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05-09-2007, 02:20 AM
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| ..... your a worthless poster  Realist
| Originally Posted by IminWonderland Curious?
According to your post above you were in high school with one year left and he'd just graduated. So you "waited 4 years and him twice as long"  So you "waited" until you were 21 and he waited until he was 28...... waited until you were 21? Really, that's waiting?? | ||||
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05-09-2007, 04:04 AM
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| One American Family at a Time. Idealist The OC, California
| Originally Posted by 7960 Is four years of dating enough time to know if you want to marry someone? It was for me. It wasn't the age I was concerned about, about him marrying later in life, and I just hoped that he hadn't become jaded from it. He took it *really* hard, and I have always felt bad that we couldn't have ended it more mutually, or I had always wished that he saw what I saw was lacking with us because I did feel very guilty ditching him how I did.
But, regardless, I'm glad that he's married, I hope they make babies and all that jazz, and that he's happy. I'm not going to even touch that and Message a congrats, I don't think it will quench anything for either of us....but, oh well, I wish him the best.... The things you can find out from the internet these days....all my gf's check up on the ex's. It's voyeuristic. | ||||
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05-09-2007, 05:22 AM
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| ..... your a worthless poster Realist
| Originally Posted by IminWonderland My point was you're saying you "waited 4 years" before marrying after breaking up with him but are ignoring that in those 4 years you went from 17 to 21. Not many people get married at 21 so saying you "waited 4 years before marrying" is a bit melodramatic.
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05-09-2007, 01:04 PM
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| One American Family at a Time. Idealist The OC, California
| Originally Posted by 7960 I don't think so. It's the ability to see information, without the person who's information it is knowing. They put it up there, we get to look at it. We all do it. Even if it isn't on "Me"space.
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05-09-2007, 01:08 PM
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| ..... your a worthless poster Realist
| Originally Posted by IminWonderland "we all" ?
you mean "insecure ex-girlfriends" right? because "we all" better not include me. | ||||
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05-09-2007, 01:11 PM
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| no es mi culpa Independent Beantown
| Originally Posted by 7960 i dunno. i mean i like checking out old flames to see what they're up to. most of my old flames that are on myspace are my friends anyway.. it's not like i'm crying over spilled milk, but is having an interest in seeing how someone is being insecure?
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05-09-2007, 01:16 PM
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| Braccae tuae aperiuntur.  Reform Party NJ
| Originally Posted by Linzyhop I think it's natural for people to wonder how people you spent so much time with in the past are doing. It seems she has a little guilt about the way things ended and she's relieved he's ok. I don't think it has anything to do with insecurities personally.
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05-09-2007, 01:20 PM
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| ..... your a worthless poster Realist
| Originally Posted by Linzyhop I have two ex's who are friends and I keep in touch. I have other ex's who are not friends and I have no desire to secretly find out how/what they're doing.
So yes, IMO, if someone is secretly checking on ex's to see how they're doing, it's from insecurity. I guess it could be for some other reason but I doubt it. | ||||
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05-09-2007, 01:26 PM
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| no es mi culpa Independent Beantown
| Originally Posted by JaJae
yeah i agree. i mean sometimes it can be about insecurity, but all in all most times i do it is to see how they are. in this day and age, it's quite a normal accurance... | ||||
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05-09-2007, 01:43 PM
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| Banned  Conservative Government is another way to say Better Than You
| It happens. All my exes get married right after me. If you want to get married, date me first. The next person you date you're guaranteed to marry! | ||||
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05-09-2007, 01:45 PM
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| no es mi culpa Independent Beantown
| Originally Posted by ballz2wallz
 i was going to say something, but i'm keeping my mouth shut. | ||||
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05-09-2007, 05:21 PM
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| Originally Posted by IminWonderland Ahh. I saw it as a bit of remorse that you were no longer with him instead of relief that he was able to move on.
Maybe it's just me, but my ex's are ex's for a reason, and I don't care much what they're up to these days.  | ||||
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05-09-2007, 09:03 PM
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| tyop speicalist Religion Moderator  Capitalist California
| Originally Posted by IminWonderland six*
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